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    Face to face therapy continues. Coronavirus update 4 January 2021

    Face to face therapy: Therapists not working from home are allowed to continue offering our services face to face according to the latest Tier 5 regulations. Please see below an excerpt from the 4 January 2021 update National Lockdown: Stay at Home – GOV.UK website Guidance ‘National lockdown: Stay at Home Coronavirus cases are rising rapidly across the country. Find out what you can and cannot do. Published 4 January 2021 Last updated 4 January 2021 From: Cabinet Office Businesses and venues which can remain open Healthcare and public services The NHS and medical services remain open, including: other medical or health services, including services relating to mental health Where and…

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    Coronavirus, home confinement and grief

    Good day to you beloved fellow home confined Britons This morning we woke to the new reality of home confinement. This initial 21 day period may just be the start. In fact, there is an understanding that it takes 21 days to embed a new habit… I felt both frozen and anxious. Remember the discomfort one feels when considering the future death of a loved one? That anticipatory grief describes my feelings when considering the open ended, possibly disastrous future we face in this pandemic. How to deal with it: Understand the 5 stages of grief and that it is not linear but cyclical – denial, anger, bargaining, depression and…

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    Couples counselling

    Sometimes a shift occurs in the consultation room when a couple moves from couples counselling to separation counselling. Brian Appleby writes that ‘separation counselling takes place when one person, or both, recognises, albeit in many circumstances reluctantly and sadly, that reconciliation is no longer viable’. I find that this movement often surfaces as an ebbing realisation, rather than a pre-meditated idea. A psychotherapist’s work is to notice this movement, allowing it to rise, holding the tension and presenting the couple with choice. Moving forward a separating couple’s task at hand, often facilitated by their counsellor, will be to plan an exit roadmap. These conversations create significant signposts for a harmonious…

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    I’m stuck. I move on. Am I growing?

    Could it be that time stands still and we are the ones moving on? Does ‘we’ include plants and animals? Brick and mortar? Technology? The universe? We get stuck, we retreat, we try again; we repeat; we try differently; hopefully we move on. We grow? Are we in a loop where it seems like growth but it’s just another last day of the year every year over and over again? Is it a spiral? Does it make any difference? Counselling and psychotherapy engage ways of moving on. Furthermore our chances of growing are better when we are joined by a professional, caring outsider walking alongside us. Wishing you a year,…

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    Understanding shame

    The average human response to shame is to disengage from it. We don’t understand shame as an invitation to reflect, process and grow, we use it as a lock to the associated events and feelings. Could shame be the brain’s response to the threat of disconnection? What are the links between attachment, shame and anger? Could your understanding of this emotion empower you to live a more liberated life? If you live with a lingering or pounding sense of shame, please contact me. Here an infogram by NICABM.